Today’s Mom Tears™ are brought to you by “Hey, I see you” and “You are so much more than you thought you were”
We are celebrating International Women’s Day and I cant help but think once again of all the women who have in one way or another shaped the woman (Girl … cause seriously for as much as I try to embrace womanhood I still feel like am awkward 10 year old) I am today. Truth be told there have been some pretty darn incredible men who have also pushed me into becoming all that encompasses being me…. And let me be the first to admit it’s A LOT… I am a well composed hot mess.
I am ALWAYS cold…..
Here’s the thing, I have yet to meet any woman, lady, chick or girl who does not have the ability to take what life tosses at her and somehow make it work. I am not saying men can’t and don’t do it, cause they do.
* Disclaimer: I have never been a guy. Do not want to be a guy and at times feel sorry for the hoops I sometimes put forth for my partner to jump through. Admit it girls we all do it! And who wants to go through life without a bit of mascara or the vast choices we have to stain our lips in an array of colour… sharp words fall softer from lips tinted in cotton candy than a poppy red.
Alas; this is for those among us who feel unheard.
I do hear you.
I hear the way you struggle trying to fit in.
Fit in to the latest trends
Fit into the role of career, girlfriend, wife, mother.
DO IT ALL.
Don’t dress in a way that will draw attention!
Why is “She” so dumpy?
She really let herself go!
Work. What about the kids?
Stay home. Must be nice! Lazy!
Do both and something falls short…..
YOU GOT LOST!!!!
Life does not stop.
Choose not to have children (or cannot) Selfish
Can you? Will You? Mom? Its not enough. You failed me. Look at the mess you made!!
Girls (If I may call you that) You owe NO ONE any explanation for the way you live your life.
We spend so much of our precious valuable time trying to please someone. Second guessing gut feelings because of archaic thought patterns passed down into our open hands that we forget in the end none of “those people” will be standing beside us professing our intent.
I can only speak from my own experience.
I have little to no education. I choose to stay home and raise my kiddos. I went without in order to do so. I did the best I could have at the time with the knowledge I had. I did not protect them or myself from a damn thing. In many ways I failed the most important people in my life. In other ways I hope to have given them something they will one day see.
I tried, loved to my very best of ability.
I lied to myself trying in a marriage that left me completely drained, alone and so incredibly broken. Yet, I was gifted with seven incredible people. People who good, bad, through the depths of hell I would give my last breath for.
Then it hits me.
I am not one for subtle hints. So, a rock falling from the sky is usually what it takes.
To be a woman worth celebrating is simply enough to be a woman.
READ THAT AGAIN.
birthed a child
loved so purely a child born from another
FORCE TO BE RECKONED WITH
I see you, quietly hiding in the corner.
Didn’t you see Dirty Dancing?
NOBODY PUTS BABY IN THE CORNER!!!
Today is YOUR DAY. Whatever, however you celebrate a day that is for women DO IT!
DO IT with all of who YOU are If only because “She” is watching.